^#smrgSAHAF Women: The Variety and Meaning of Their Sexual Experience -

Through the ages, women's lives have centered about their sex role... Where for men actual sex activity, however insistently it may intrude upon attention, is a matter of a few minutes, for women each of these few minutes is laden with commitment before and commitment afterwards. Where men has to learn to want to be fathers, girls are committed by every cell in their bodies, to a more engrossing and time-consuming role. This situation produces a pattern of opposites: women have to learn to say 'no' not only to their would be lovers, but also to their own desires, before they are finally allowed to say 'yes' to a husband who ideally is both desired and desiring, while men have to say 'yes' to their own impulses towards women in general in order to be faithful to their wives. -- from Introduction